When it gets down to it, I just have too many clothes that I just do not wear. The pile contains all my shirts and JUST my shirts. It is overwhelming seeing how much I do own.
I was able to keep myself clear headed with some steps I followed throughout this process.
1. Avoiding the guilt trips of tossing out clothes a friend/relative gave me.
There are massive guilt trips associated with throwing out items that a friend/relative has gotten you. “I received this gift and I should wear it” always comes across my mind. I feel so guilty when the shirt gets tucked into the back of my drawers. I do not mean for it to happen, it just does because the shirt doesn’t fit my personality, it is not me.
I just really thought to myself, do I really wear this. The answer was no. I have had a shirt for YEARS that I never tossed because I felt too guilty. How many times have I received a shirt and had that friend/relative ask me how much I enjoy the shirt they got me…zero!
It is better to see the shirt gone from my drawers, I no longer feel guilty about it. I honestly feel better seeing the shirt gone for it isn’t a guilty reminder anymore lurking in the shadows.
2. One time wear clothing.
Realistically, when has that time come that you bought a piece of clothing, wore it once, and the regretted that you paid so much money for it. Unfortunately, it can happen pretty frequently. Unless you are attending the Oscar’s and have money for gorgeous one-time wear dresses, it is unnecessary to purchase one-time items.
Tossing one time items is hard. Thoughts race through my head of “I can wear this here next time I go here” or “I can wear this fancy dress when I go to a nice restaurant”. I rarely ever wear dresses and I rarely ever go out to nice restaurants where I would want to wear a nice dress. I kept on creating fantasy stories of wear and when I would wear a nice dress. I cut to the crap with the dreams of wearing it somewhere extravagant. Truth is, I am not going to wear it.
Thinking realistically, I have no use for a dress I wore once. Even though I spent a good amount on the dress, it would have remained on its hanger for another couple of years before I would have worn it again.
3. It is just not “me”.
I have bought clothing in style. I have bought clothing that wasn’t me, thought it was me when I bought it. WRONG. Going along with trends can be frustrating, sometimes I do give in. Get something I would have never gotten in the first place, just because I see friends wearing it. If it isn’t me I shouldn’t wear it.
In my closet, I have a lot of darks and neutrals. I used to wear some pop of colors…sometimes. I decided to rid of a bright pink shirt that I did love years ago, but then I realized that it was not me anymore. I didn’t like wearing pink, I didn’t want to wear it. This shirt was a lot easier than some to rid of because it wasn’t my style anymore. Even though I still like the shirt, I just had no use for it anymore.
If clothes aren’t you, then get rid of them. I want to have a small closet filled with clothes that are my style, not the new trends that don’t match with what I like wearing.